HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC
Features of my practice
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I specialize in working with couples and I'm very passionate about helping relationships get back on track and helping clients heal and grow through relationships. Often couples that come to me for help have found themselves locked into a certain pattern of relating that leads again and again to the problems they are hoping to address in counseling. I help couples identify and alter these patterns.
I believe loving relationships just don't happen, the skills must be learned. This is the time for learning that intimacy is a skill-set. Not a static capacity so much as a daily practice. Not something one has but something one does.
Communication between partners is a multilayered process. In order for relationships to succeed and thrive, partners must lean how to speak their truth adeptly and relationally . Because of this many of us feel inadequate at our attempts to understand our partners and be understood. We need to shift our understanding that communicating clearly is not enough, we must also focus on communicating relationally.
There are many causes for stress in a relationship. Sometimes there are specific issues such as an affair, sexual differences, conflicts about child rearing, cultural differences, blended families. Other times there is a gradual fading of romance and connection, a lack of interest and caring, a case of two people growing more and more distant.Couples counseling (whether you are married or not) helps couples rebuild a relationship by providing tools for better communication, resolving conflicts and differences and maintain connection.
If your partner refuses to attend couples therapy sessions, go on your own. You can benefit from learning more about yourself and your relationship. Change in one partner always affects the whole relationship. How One Person Can Make the Difference for the Two of You (see below).
Reading How to Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy will help couples understand the most beneficial ways to do this work. -
Psychotherapy or counseling is the process of examining thoughts, feelings, bodily experience, and relationships, as well as looking at personal and/or family patterns to gain a greater understanding about oneself.
Through working to increase self-awareness and compassion for ourselves, we begin to gently reveal the subtle ways we have unwittingly denied ourselves our full potential to experience love and joy in our personal and / or work lives.
We may also come to recognize the ways in which we inadvertently create or contribute to the suffering in ourselves or others.
As your therapist I focus to create a safe and respectful environment for you to share your concerns as openly as possible. My goal is to help you grow the space inside of you for self-respect and compassion. Learning and change can be an immediate experience, that is why I orient my attention to the "here and now" as we work in the room together. -
Below are some issues for which Counseling / Psychotherapy may be helpful:
Coping with Change
Life Adjustment Issue
Personal Growth & Exploration
Self-Esteem / Confidence Issues
Relationship Issues
Depression or Sadness
Anxiety
Excessive Anger
Grievance and Loss
Stress Management
Work-Life Balance
Obsessions & Compulsions
Addictions
Sexuality Issues
Excessive Fear
Coping with Health Issues
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It is wonderful when two motivated people decide to work on their relationship together. But there are times when one partner is not willing to engage in the process. The good news is that there is hope for a relationship even when only when partner comes for treatment. A relationship is like a seesaw. Even when one partner acts alone it affects the other.
We must remember, the only instrument for change we posses. our only tool, is ourselves. Changing one's own behavior is a much more promising strategy than insisting on change from the other. One motivated partner can change the relationship for the better, without ever engaging the cooperation of the other partner.
Maybe there is one person who can accept the situation the way it is while the other feels deeply troubled. Or both partners find it impossible to discuss their issues in the same room with each other.
Changing your own behavior is a way to begin affecting your relationship in a new way. It can help to talk the situation over with a therapist who can offer a fresh perspective and guide you to feel empowered to change your relationship without focusing on your partner to change. No matter how severe your partner's faults are, you can change your behavior and your responses in the relationship which gives you enormous power, the inner power and personal strength to transform your relationship.
Practical Information
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Office Hours:
Tuesday - Friday 9am - 5pm
Tuesdays & Fridays in-person sessions only
Wednesdays & Thursdays - video/online/phone sessions only
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Individual Counseling/Therapy
First initial consultation session:
$225 (75 minute session)
Standard session:
$165 (50 minute session)
$225 (75 minute session)
Couples Counseling/Therapy First initial consultation session: $260 (75 minute session)
Standard session: *$190 (50 minute session) *$260 (75 minute session)
*Same fee for individual breakout sessions (having a session with one of the partners) ** Intensive sessions available (lasting more than 75 minutes) please inquire. Why does couples counseling cost more than individual counseling? Couples counseling is more complex because two individuals and their interactions are involved in the counseling process. The focus is on the relationship, while taking in account two individual's perspectives, desires, and presenting issues. Also, more time outside of the session is involved in the assessment and treatment planning. -
I do not accept insurance. I am a fee-for-service provider.
Privacy concerns using Insurance: Please note that whenever insurance is used, personal information such as your diagnosis (a mental disorder) which insurance companies require for processing payment, as well as; treatment plans, reports of progress and other personal information becomes available to your insurance company and at times to employers.This information may be passed on even without your consent. The diagnosis and your mental health records will now become a part of your overall medical records and the information contained therefore becomes a permanent part of your records. A diagnosis requirement is one that meets "medical necessity" (a term used to describe whether or not a procedure / treatment is needed to ensure a person's health). Although having a mental health diagnosis may not be of concern for many individuals it is important to realize that any diagnosis becomes part of your permanent medical record and could have an adverse affect on obtaining future medical coverage, life insurance, disability benefits and for some career opportunities.The burden of proof whether counseling is a medical necessity may be then on the client or clinician. I am then required to provide them with a report of your progress and they may expect a treatment plan and influence that plan. Managed care organizations often ask and require detail information about patients in order to make payment decisions. Paying for therapy directly assures that confidentiality is not compromised and that insurance companies are not influencing your therapy.
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I accept cash, check and major credit cards as forms of payment. Payment is due at the time of the appointment.
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If you are unable to attend a session, please make sure you cancel at least 48 hours beforehand. Otherwise, you will be charged for the full rate of the session.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Seeking out therapy is an individual choice. There are many reasons why people come to therapy. Sometimes it is to deal with long-standing psychological issues, or problems with anxiety or depression. Other times it is in response to unexpected changes in one's life such as a divorce or work transition. Many seek the advice of counsel as they pursue their own personal exploration and growth. Working with a therapist can help provide insight, support, and new strategies for all types of life challenges. Therapy can help address many types of issues including depression, anxiety, conflict, grief, stress management, body-image issues, and general life transitions. Therapy is right for anyone who is interested in getting the most out of their life by taking responsibility, creating greater self-awareness, and working towards change in their lives.
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Everyone goes through challenging situations in life, and while you may have successfully navigated through other difficulties you've faced, there's nothing wrong with seeking out extra support when you need it. In fact, therapy is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired. You are taking responsibility by accepting where you're at in life and making a commitment to change the situation by seeking therapy. Therapy provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face.
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A number of benefits are available from participating in psychotherapy. Therapists can provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies for issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship troubles, unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress management, body image issues and creative blocks. Many people also find that counselors can be a tremendous asset to managing personal growth, interpersonal relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, and the hassles of daily life. Therapists can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn. Some of the benefits available from therapy include:
Attaining a better understanding of yourself, your goals and values
Developing skills for improving your relationships
Finding resolution to the issues or concerns that led you to seek therapy
Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
Improving communications and listening skills
Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
Discovering new ways to solve problems in your family or marriage
Improving your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence
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Every therapy session is unique and caters to each individual and their specific goals. It is standard for therapists to discuss the primary issues and concerns in your life during therapy sessions. It is common to schedule a series of weekly sessions, where each session lasts around fifty minutes. Therapy can be short-term, focusing on a specific issue, or longer-term, addressing more complex issues or ongoing personal growth. There may be times when you are asked to take certain actions outside of the therapy sessions, such as reading a relevant book or keeping records to track certain behaviors. It is important process what has been discussed and integrate it into your life between sessions. For therapy to be most effective you must be an active participant, both during and between the sessions. People seeking psychotherapy are willing to take responsibility for their actions, work towards self-change and create greater awareness in their lives. Here are some things you can expect out of therapy:
Compassion, respect and understanding
Perspectives to illuminate persistent patterns and negative feelings
Real strategies for enacting positive change
Effective and proven techniques along with practical guidance
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In some cases a combination of medication and therapy may be a beneficial course of action. Working with your medical doctor you can determine what's best for you. It is well established that the long-term solution to mental and emotional problems and the pain they cause cannot be solved solely by medication. Instead of just treating the symptom, therapy addresses the cause of our distress and the behavior patterns that curb our progress. You can best achieve sustainable growth and a greater sense of well-being with an integrative approach to wellness.
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See the insurance policy above.
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In general, the law protects the confidentiality of all communications between a client and psychotherapist. No information is disclosed without prior written permission from the client.
However, there are some exceptions required by law to this rule. Exceptions include:Suspected child abuse or dependant adult or elder abuse. The therapist is required to report this to the appropriate authorities immediately.
If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person. The therapist is required to notify the police.
If a client intends to harm himself or herself. The therapist will make every effort to work with the individual to ensure their safety. However, if an individual does not cooperate, additional measures may need to be taken.
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Unfortunately, I cannot guarantee that your issues will be resolved in a specific number of sessions or time frame. There are many factors to consider including how willing and motivated you are to work, grow and deepen your awareness. Usually we can sense together when your counseling is coming to an end. At that point, we can look at your progress. Did you accomplish the goals you expected? Maybe we even tackled goals you were not initially expecting, but are benefiting your life. You may find you need to end counseling earlier than expected. That's okay. You can always call me if you find you need to return in the future and we can determine the best path for you at that point in time. I do believe that endings need to be treated with as much care and gentleness as any part of a relationship.